Sizing You Up...And Down

Two extremely different behaviors that can define a person:

Upon meeting a person you immediately start picking out anything and everything you would consider a flaw. Maybe it's something as simple as the clothes they wear or their hair style, maybe it's their tattoos or piercings (or lack of such). Maybe it's their posture, or even their body type.

Whatever it is you consider a flaw, or annoying, or tasteless, or in just some way objectionable, it places a negative impression of the person in that little area of your mind we'll call Judgementville.

Or...

Upon meeting a person you immediately start picking out anything and everything you would consider an asset. Maybe it's something as simple as the clothes they wear or their hair style, maybe it's their tattoos of piercings (or lack of such). Maybe it's their posture, or even their body type.

Whatever it is you consider an asset, or pleasant, or tasteful, or in just some way attractive, it places a positive impression of the person in that little area of your mind we'll call Judgementville.

Now, what's crazy about these two extremely different behaviors is that we are all guilty of both. 

All of us, all 7.5 billion of us. It's just how it is. 

It's where we go from the moment after the snap judgement is made that makes all the difference. After all, there is most likely something deeper about the person you are looking at, something well-below the surface, that will give you a much more justifiable reason to detest or respect that person.